How Our Unhealed Racial Divide Sustains the Patriarchal System

One of the most painful and paradoxical truths is this:

When we, as women, remain divided by race, we unconsciously uphold the very systems of patriarchy that have oppressed us all.

The patriarchal system thrives on domination, hierarchy, and disconnection.  It has always relied on separation - especially among women - to maintain power.

It tells BIPOC women: You must endure, stay silent, and carry the burden.
It tells white women: You must lead, fix, or fear being blamed.
It tells all of us: Don't trust each other.  Don't name the wound.  Don't rock the boat.

But in truth, it is the rupture between us that keeps us collectively small.
It is the mistrust, the unspoken tension, and the inherited roles that keep us from rising together.

When white and BIPOC women do not heal the spiritual and ancestral fractures between them:

• We replicate systems of power-over rather than power-with
• We perform solidarity rather than embodying sisterhood
• We retreat into roles of savior, silence, or shame rather than co-creating mutual care
• We bring unacknowledged tension into sacred spaces - especially the womb spaces of labor, birth, and death - where we are meant to be channels of life, not containers of hidden conflict​

In this way, the unhealed divide becomes an extension of patriarchy itself.

Because patriarchy doesn't just live in men.
It lives in systems, roles, expectations, and silences.
It lives in how we avoid the hard conversations, how we protect ego over truth, how we withhold trust out of fear of being hurt again.

But Here's the Truth:

The partriarchal system fears healed women in sacred union.
It fears what we will remember when we stand in circle and share stories.
It fears what we will reclaim when we tend to the wounds, instead of ignoring them.
It fears the power of cross-cultural, embodied, soul-centered sisterhood.

Because when women heal the divide,
when we restore our interwoven roots,
we become unstoppable.

We dismantle oppression not only externally - but internally.
We birth a new reality from the inside out.

The Work of B.I.R.T.H.

B.I.R.T.H. Cohorts exist to call women into that sacred labor.
It is a container where we midwife the healing of our relationship with one another, 
so that we can become true stewards of transformation - not gatekeepers of the old order.

Because if we want to see a new world born,
we must first clear the womb of division.